Taking care of an aging parent is a hard job, it requires relentless effort and a lot of time. I often see adults complaining that despite their entire interest in a parent's caretaking responsibility, they end up feeling drained and upset. If you're one of those adults, and you're seeking advice, I think I can be of some help to you. There are certain things that you can do to make this job much more manageable for yourselves than it already is. I'm sure by now you're super curious to know so without further blabbering, I’ll continue with the advice.
1. Set Boundaries
I understand that you care a lot about your parent, but you have to make sure that you have specified boundaries that no one crosses. Before you take up the job of caregiving, make sure you communicate with your parents that you have your own life and your privacy that you wouldn't want to be meddled with. I’m sure they will understand that and help you in this regard.
2. Take Care of Yourself
How can you possibly take care of someone if you're not careful with your own mental, emotional and physical health? Have your meals at a time and make sure you're emotionally healthy as well. Your parents' well-being is pretty much dependent on your wellbeing. I advise that you never compromise on your health.
3. Have Alone Time
When you have an elderly parent at home, it might feel like that the time is just flying by and as if you don't have any time for your self. Make sure that you occasionally take time out for yourself and indulge in an activity you love so that you do not get frustrated with your caregiving routine. This is very beneficial for both you and your parent because sometimes they need a break as well.
4. Involve Family
You don't have to do it all yourself; this is the worst mistake a perfectly kind and understanding adult caregiver-child can make. They assume they are responsible for their parents' caretaking solely and therefore they cannot seek help. On the other hand, you must make sure that all your family members are as indulged in the caregiving, at least mentally, as you are. Ensure that your kids spend time with your parents and keep them company when you're busy with work or chores. Similarly, make sure that your siblings play their designated role in caregiving.
5. Help them Socialize
Did you know that if the elderly socialized they would act and feel less grumpy and irritated? Socialization helps stay sane, and this has been proven scientifically as well. Hire befriending services so that your parents get more involved with the society and do not shut themselves in their rooms just to peer out of the window from dawn to dusk. It will only have adverse effects on their mental health.
I hope these tips help your parents.
Author Bio: This article was written by Chris Palmer who regularly shares advice on elderly care. In particular dementia and supporting your elderly parent. You can find more by Chris on: https://www.agespace.org/.